Today's blog is dedicated to Mothers.
Regular readers will know, I am suspicious and cynical of the increasingly relentless commercialism and pressure of life events. These are aggressively marketed events to encourage us to take part in wanton spending. The huge commercialism is designed to provide us with a moral and sociological obligation to take part.
Think of Christmas Day, Fathers Day, Pancake Day, Valentines Day, Easter Day. If you don't spend money on gifts, cards, helium balloons, cakes or personalised messages you are effectively, 'a scrooge, selfish, uncaring or a social leper.' It's a lot of pressure.
Why do we need a mass day just to show we care? Is it not important to consistently show that for 364 other days a year?
Mother's day was created in the early 20th Century in the States and UK. Reports that Clintons invented it are as yet unconfirmed. It is essentially a celebration of mothers and motherhood. A chance for us all to show an appreciation at the important role mothers have played in our life and society. I like it.
My mum is Amazing. Unswerving love, support, care. Everyone I know always says, 'you're Mum is amazing.' When you are young one can tend to take Mother's for granted. Expecting the love or attention or care. I know I did.
As you get older your realise Mum's are human beings too. Although they may have given birth, brought you up and made so many sacrifices for you, it is only now I am beginning to appreciate that she is a human being, with her own needs, wants and life to live. Mother's do not solely exist for their children (well some do but that's co-dependancy for you) It's something I have grown aware of as I get older.
I did what most other people did today. I joined in with the mass commercialism with a card, flowers and treated her to lunch. There were 8 other bouquets of flowers in the restaurant. It's A popular day.
You know what though? Fuck the cynicism, why not celebrate motherhood. Why not join in. I don't have to buy what is being bombarded at me in the shops to show I care, but so what If I do. Spending time and showing appreciation is much more important. Of course if that ends in an Apple crumble then even better.
I had a great day with my Mum. It was great to spend time and talk about her life. Celebrate her good points. Plus she was stuffed after a roast dinner, so it saved me £6.95 on the desert. Result.
As I said to her. "The least I can do for all your love, attention and thousands of pounds you have spent on me is treat you to lunch. So you can have anything you want under a tenner." How can you put a price on love though? (Joke)
What I would like to do though is to give a shout out to all those people who haven't got mothers. Who have lost them or didn't have them in the fist place. That is hard every day not just on mother's day. But there is something about the mass coverage on social media of everyone saying thanks to their mum, which can stir real sadness and loss in people who don't have one anymore.
What about people who have Mum's who don't care. Or Mum's who have lost their kids? Truly awful. Let's have a little thought for all those guys today.
I salute my Mother, but lets salute everyone's absent mother's or children. Lets give them a thought of love and happiness bloggers. That way the power of positive thought can work through the 100 people who read this.
Having said that, Just think how much positivity could be transmitted if I had 1 million readers? So come on spread the word guys about this blog, Press share!)
Did you see what I did there? Seamlessly moving from a heartfelt plea to self promotion. I didn't even have to try. That level of self obsession comes so naturally. Christ knows what I'd be like without a programme. Cheers Mum
Love to all the Mum's out there. Both with us and not.
Together We Are Stronger
Nicholas Evans
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